My school days weren’t easy and I’m sure they weren’t for you either. I didn’t even know that I am highly sensitive back then. So, to raise awareness to what bullying can do to a highly sensitive person, I’m sharing my story.
A little girl is starting school for the first time in her life. The first years of her school life she spends being jealous of her friend who has all the different arts and crafts supplies she wants. She craves to be able to do art too.
Finally, her mother brings the girl to an art class. She exceeds all her expectations and falls in love with the creative process.
In secondary school the girl gets to start education in a local Art School. She loves the elegant and gentle process of silk dying. She enjoys the relaxing mid-winter still art sessions. Oh, and the pottery classes are just so much fun!
But the sweet joy from beloved Art School always carries a slight tint to it. Something that only a highly sensitive child won’t be able to tolerate. And that is the attitude of fellow classmates.
All other kids are too energetic, never can calm down and finish their projects on time. A lot of the time their running and laughing is so irritating, the girl needs to leave to another classroom.
The girl is very friendly and very strong. She tries to make friends with other children. But one day, these kids decide to play an innocent joke on her. They write her name on every table of the classroom and come to the teacher to blame the girl for doing that.
The teacher of course doesn’t believe them. From anger or jealousy, these kids meet the girl outside the classroom one late afternoon. The school is usually empty in that time – apart from their teacher and a guard, there is no one.
The leader of their group, steps towards the girl and starts to create a conflict [ I don’t remember what the talk was about]. It ends up with those kids scratching the girls hands with their nails!
Discouraged, the girl doesn’t return to the Art School again. She never graduates it and has to opt out into the Business School instead.
And that is only one of the times when I was bullied in school. Unfortunately, because of bullying I fell into patterns of people pleasing to stop it. Now, I have to learn assertiveness as a skill I couldn’t grasp on in my school days.
Educational institutions and their students should understand personality trait of Highly Sensitive Person.
I think school’s anti-bulling campaigns would benefit from making sure that kids understand that as much as there is racial or cultural diversity, there is also a great diversity in personalities of each other which should be treated with respect.